It’s been a few months since I’ve even logged into this account. Truth be told, I got swamped with work and other things. However, this project is still in the process, and the novel is still in the works. To both the OLD and NEW FOLLOWERS, I’d love for you to continue spreading the word and/or sending in your contributions.
Thanks again to everyone!
Insecurities suck. Doubting yourself at every turn, turning up opportunities of a life time, settling for way less you should, missing out on life. That’s what mine have caused me to do. They’re not about one particular thing, just a modge podge of everything really. I’m slowly working them out, but it’s not easy. Everyday, I tell myself. “Today is gonna be a good day, because you do deserve it.
Note from the creator of The Insecurities Project:
First off, I’d like to apologize for my absence. Today is the first time in a month that I have even logged into this account. I’ve been extremely busy with personal things, and work, but I’m back. This project is still very much alive in my mind - and though the responses have slowed, I am still very passionate about following through with my intentions from when this all began. What I ask now, of each follower - both old, and new - is to spread the word and/or send in some responses.
I cannot express enough, how important I think it is, to be able to come to terms with our insecurities. With each day that we hold them in, a little piece of us begins to shut down, and another wall goes up. There have been plenty of people who have messaged me personally and expressed their gratitude for something like this - to be able to open up to complete strangers - without the fear of judgement. Many people fail to acknowledge that we all fight an individual battle, and there are many people who can relate to the things that burden us most.
Please take the time to really look into yourselves, and share a story or some advice - with hopes that one by one, we can change the way we view ourselves - in turn changing the world, one person at a time.
Thank you to everyone who has remained a supporter. I can’t express my appreciation enough…but just know that you could be making a difference in not only YOUR life, but someone else’s as well.
There are several plans, I’d like to execute within the next couple of months, in regards to this project. Thus, stay tuned, keep supporting & feel free to contribute!
When I was younger I used to wish for the day that I was officially an adult; grown enough to stop going to school, grown enough to finally make my own decisions, and grown enough to stay out as late as I wanted. Now that I’m way past the age of officially entering adulthood, it scares me. I don’t want to grow up. I’m so terrified of becoming irrelevant and forgettable. It scares me to think that I’m running out of time and I may just end up being bitter and old because of failed dreams. I wish I were a teenager again, so I could go back to a time when life was still exciting. I just don’t want to fail, and think I could have made something better of myself if I had made smarter choices. Being grown comes with plenty of expectations, and I’m afraid I’ll just let everyone down. More importantly, I’m afraid I’ll let myself down.
Be your own best friend. Never, ever put yourself down.
- Paulo Coelho
"It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for something you are not"
- Andre Gide
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
so many people claim to be insecure about their looks, that seems to be the only insecurities we hear about. i’m insecure about not being good enough. i have such high expectations of myself, and i never feel satisfied in anything that i do. to me, i can always do better, and my best is never enough. it’s a horrible feeling to live with, it really is. if i could get rid of it, believe me, i would. i’m confident in other aspects of my life, but this single insecurity is enough to send my self-esteem to rock bottom.
i think all anyone needs is reassurance and love to get over their insecurities, which is why i’ve decided that i want to be an advice journalist.
when you’re insecure with yourself, you have to wake up in the morning, go to the mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself you’re beautiful inside and out.
it truly does help. i’ve been there. i promise.
Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different.
- Stacey Charter
I have never been one for being the ‘confident’ person; that’s just not the kind of person I am. But I am constantly doubting myself, worrying, and insecure with myself about how people view me and what people think. I wish I had the mindset of “just be yourself, you shouldn’t care what others think”—but I find that as always things are easier said than done. Recently I have been getting to know a guy for the past year and I am extremely insecure when it comes to guys (I’m not tall…5 feet to be exact: I know what you’re thinking, what does height have to do with this? But to me, it seems like a ‘make or break’ kind of deal) and admitting to my significant other how I view myself, apologizing for unnecessary things, etc. demonstrates how little confidence I truly have. But he reminds me to be more confident in myself, and that I should not fear my insecurities of telling him that ‘I miss you’, or how I honestly feel about him (I also have fears of being alone…and people leaving me). But he likes me for who I am, imperfections and all…
So now it’s my turn to look past my own insecurities and realize that this guy likes me for me.
I need to begin liking myself for a change.
Throughout my life I have dealt with anxiety, fears and worries. I fear the worst is going to happen in a situation. I worry that my life or the people that I care about the most are going to be gone in the flash of a second. I am anxious for the future even though I live in the moment. My biggest fear is dying. I can’t wrap my head around the subject. I don’t grasp its meaning. All that I do know is that I am terrified of it. I suppose my fears are something that I am insecure about because it holds me back from doing exciting things. For example- I am not gutsy enough to go up to someone that I know, or I wont want to go hiking near the side of the mountain for fear of falling off. Little things like that are what chain me from having fun. However as time goes on, I have learned how to break free from some of these chains and leap into the situation without fear. Fear is what drives me to my worst place. Anxiety is what controls my mind late at night when no one is awake to calm me and lastly worries are what make me overlook a situation far too many times.
I guess its all a learning experience that will take time to overcome.
I’m not exactly sure why I have insecurities. Many say I’m visually pleasing, and I’ve been described as a person with a decent sense of humor and good character. I suppose it’s the desire to be approved and accepted. I suspect that comes from my childhood, but I’ll spare you the long, sad story….for now xD.
I will leave you a sprinkle of advice that helped me, though…
Sometimes, when people have intentions of improving certain negative personality traits or looks, a common side-effect is ostentaciousness. Rather than increasing their own self-esteem, they mimic another’s, and within this process they tend to lose who they are… pushing themselves further from the comfort they long for. Although they may be loved while hiding beneath this pretentious display… who is REALLY being admired?
You’ll find something about yourself to love. Don’t waste the person you really are.